About Liz Kalman
I trained at the Centre for Training in Psychotherapy in Toronto, and have been in practice for over fifteen years. My work is deeply influenced by my study of existential psychotherapy. Clients have described me as “empathic”, “patient”, “warm”, “supportive”, “sensitive” and “non-judgemental”. I am a mother, married, with two daughters and two stepsons.
Language: English & Hungarian
Issues that I work with:
- Existential concerns
- Family Relationship Issues
- Blended Family Issues
- Postpartum Depression
What happens in a therapy session
In our sessions we will focus on your concerns. There is no agenda—I encourage you to bring what feels important to you. Embarking on the process of psychotherapy provides a space to give voice to what you are truly feeling. In the unique environment of the therapeutic session there are no distractions or interruptions. You will experience a freedom from everyday constraints to explore the beliefs and assumptions that affect the choices you make. This is a place to reflect in the company of a caring person, a place to attend with care to your concerns. With friends or family you may perceive expectations and may edit your speech to the point where you obscure your own voice. It may get so muted and dim that it becomes inaccessible even to yourself. With a therapist you are in a space that is free of judgement or expectation—like arriving in the peace and quiet of the countryside. You hear yourself more clearly without the clamour of noisy phones and the static that crowd everyday existence. Being still with someone can reveal what is beneath the clutter of the everyday. We will draw attention to what you may not be listening to within yourself. You are invited to hear yourself with more compassion and awareness. I will listen attentively, without incessantly questioning, quietly alert and ready to draw attention to areas that call to be examined. We will explore what may be limiting you in life and discover new possibilities that may be outside of your awareness.
In contrast to those who medicalize suffering, I look at the struggles of the individual as stemming from a lack of support. So much in our world can make us feel insignificant, distancing us from ourselves and from each other. Our individual voices get overshadowed by a profusion of manufactured sounds that impose expectations and drown us out. In a myriad of ways large and small, we are confronted by situations that diminish our sense of agency and the sense that our voice matters. More than ever before, we are surrounded by enticements (computers, phones, TV) that draw us away from deeper connections with other people and with our inner world.
Many of us lack the community support that in the past might have sustained us. In therapy we honour the struggle and the work it takes to remain connected and engaged. A therapist holds us with ourselves and holds what we are saying. A therapist shares in our experience so that we are not alone. With attentive listening we can explore dark corners safely, pay attention to your voice, and reflect upon thoughts creatively. Areas that before were lying in darkness are illuminated. We listen and attend to the parts of ourselves that have been silenced and dismissed. Over time we become more firmly rooted in our own reality and can live in the world more fully. As we grow stronger in our individuality we also become deeply aware of our shared humanity and how we belong in the world.
In my work it has been most rewarding, as we uncover the sources of clients’ limitations, to see their horizons expand. Psychotherapy is not necessarily an easy process, but it is ultimately liberating.
We will begin by arranging a consultation session. This session lasts a half-hour and it is free. We can discuss any questions you have about psychotherapy and the way we might work together. We will discuss your concerns and what brings you to therapy now.